He arrived at the hospital with an emerald ring to give her..because after all, it was Mothers Day, and I was born in May. Look at some of the comments and then talk about stupid. Since our house is on the way to the hospital, we stopped to get our bags. Using alcohol is not an appropriate way to cope with stress. Go figure! Hubby was very excited and solicitous and kept asking how I was and what did I need. Not sure of this counts but after I had the baby I realized I forgot to pack underware so I told my husband to bring me a pair. Both those incidents still come up at family get togethers. So, I felt it and tried to ignore it. Yes, by all means continue defending your drunk husband because he's dumb and he has to drink because of his job. I know you probably came on here just to vent about your guy being insensitive to your worries, but I have to speak up when I see such specific and high quantities related to drinking. Now I refuse to touch it so that I can pass it down to my own daughter. I had trauma to the right side of my abdomen and hip area, have muscle spasms in the regular to this day, five years later, and my incision looks crazy. Now, I love Firefly, but I will forever associate Captain Malcolm Reynolds saying I swear by my pretty floral bonnet, I will end you with the start of the worst pain of my life. The best way to cope with your stress and maintain a positive attitude is to stay focused on your goals and avoid situations that may trigger the urge to drink. This went on all day. It wasnt until I went into labor in the middle of the night that I realized he dropped the ball. Pleaseselect whether I bother you once a day or once a week. Soon enough he gets a call from his mother asking how the delivery is going. -Amy, Mine watched TV with his face pressed against the screen because he couldnt hear it over my pain noises! Well, watched is a bit strong, but it was on the entire time! Mine said I was making a spectacle of myself while in an induced labor with back to back contractions. Ahh, those were the days I bet he misses me. When he stopped drinking for a month, we conceived right away. Then I asked him to wake our 3-year-old and get him ready for daycare. Or do you let fly in situ? July 2015 Answer . I feel your pain! laughing gas has been used as a form of pain relief since the late 1900's, although you're more likely to see it at the dentist's office than a birth center. He was driving me to hospital in his Mustang Cobra, and we got caught in traffic over a bridge. She said she would kill me if i left or fainted so, yeah, i was there for her..lol, I wouldve called my nurse in and asked her to slap him! It was our first child. 7 min read. I mean PISSED. And yeahshe figured it out and got him out quickly after that, but he was deeply bruised and as a result had terrible jaundice, needing bili blankets through the fifth day and had muscular trauma in his neck that he needed therapy to correct for two years afterward. The day after our daughter was born my husband told me about this whole situation and directly quoted said I mean I had to pump for 2 minutes straight. I dont want to deal with your stink and neither do the doctors and nurses! She all but collapses into my arms exhausted to the point she couldn't even walk to the bedroom. Don't do it right after work when he's looking forward to sitting and unwinding. 5. Yesterday, my husband got drunk at his family's cookout. Its a disorder or an addiction that needs treatment than just taking the blame. Every year, nearly 9,000 women in the U.S. go into labor and, unable to make it to the hospital, have an unplanned or unattended birth at home or in the car on the way to the hospital. His response was, OOPS! While have contractions at home with my 1st child ( it was around 6pm and my contractions were coming every 5min) my husband called up to me from down stairs (I was on all 4s at this point) asking if I was hungry and he was going to order an Indian take-away. According to the World Health Organisation, around 2% of adults globally have a drinking problem thats over one billion people! I guess this is natures version of temporary amnesia because clearly, without it, wed never go back for more. With this next one, were doing a home birth, so no monitors, but I still anticipate him being so busy talking that hes not really focused on me. My husband fell asleep while I was in labor and was in such a deep sleep, the anesthesiologist had to maneuver around him in the chair in order to do the epidural. Delivery type: Vaginal that progressed to C-section. We women are quite wonderful really. This has nothing to do with "men being stupid". Thats it, just shut up and he was infuriated. PCOS and Hypothyroidism- Successful IUI's- May 2012 and October 2014. I went into labor while he was sitting in the bay, alone in a boat. So, the advice here is to keep away from the situation and let things happen. He passed out in my bed (I was in the chair) and proceeded to puke. Were going to pop some bottles the celebrate the twins arrival. I would have the conversation when he isn't drinking and is in a good mood. Imagine youre married to an alcoholic husband who drinks daily and beyond the limit, only to create a nuisance later. ? I was two weeks overdue, had been induced and then sent home because nothing was happening. Two days later, he picked us up from the hospital and wanted me to make eggplant parmesan from scratch cause we had a new oven. Thanks for being an a@#$%&*! We went to a friends wedding about 3 weeks ago and I asked him before hand not to drink and he did anyways and got pretty drunk. Life with an alcoholic husband is tough. And when they do, take them to the professional instead of trying to make things right on your own. My DH does not drink every night but he is a binge drinker when he/we drink. These are all hilarious and I feel lucky that I do not have a funny story to write. The worst expectation you as a wife to an alcoholic husband may have is to expect a change overnight. Clearly this was ridiculous. SEARCH PARTIES. All for a free parking spot!!! He went to smoke a cigarette before the midwife came to see me,and by the time he got back, I was already pushing. I aint talkin' bout chicken n' gravy biatch. All parents have had to worry about this, I am sure you will be able to find someone who is willing to help you out. an hour later, he arrived 15 minutes before our daughter did. I was furious! Im sorry if you do not want to hear this but someone has got to say it instead of ignoring it. . Many, many people struggle with this same issue, and there is help available if he chooses to use it. Get on the same page, then bring up how you are afraid alcohol could affect that. It may be harsh but is needed. 9 months or so? My hubby is a talker, too. When my contractions were less than 2mins apart, I told my husband we needed to leave. I mean, my husband was blotto, passed out beside me. And yes, I actually fix my hair. When I insisted that it in fact had broken, he asked me if i was sure, and how did i know. While I was in labor, sweating like a pig and hooked up to every wire imaginable with waaaay too many things up my vag, he sat back in a chair and said wow, Im really comfortable in this chair. Ummm Im so glad for you!! You should also try to increase your intake of healthy food and exercise regularly, as this will help you stay healthy both physically and mentally. When they were out (it was 2am after all), HE WAITED FOR THEM TO BREW A FRESH POT. A few hours post-surgery I started having a strong adverse reaction to the epidural which included profuse sweating, intense itching and hallucinations. 1. . He didnt answer, because he was ASLEEP since hed been working so hard. took a look and her and said he was glad it was over and that she looked like a spider monkey. I waddle downstairs expecting everyone to be ready to leave and find them eating waffles and watching cartoons. In the absence of a specific policy that the employee has agreed to abide by . Once labor begins, it can take between 10 to 24 hours (or more) to progress through the three stages of labor before your baby is born. So the end result was his own personal police escort to the hospital. After 26 hours of Oxytocin induced labour our son arrived and my hubby had the balls to say jokingly Well, at least we know hes hers! There was never any doubt about paternity, it was just his stupid sense of humour. I. He begrudgingly told me hed hurry. I finally woke him up to help me time them, since they were getting more intense. I hope you haven't given up on this post. )My husband was engrossed by the Daytona 500. I feel so much resentment for his lack of physical and emotional support. It wasnt my normal doctor and she didnt believe me when I said that my four weeks early baby was estimated at around 9lbs 14 OAS two days prioryeah, I have huge kids, no gestational diabetesanyway So, she ignored that and made me incisions too small and couldnt get the baby out, despite the epidural it was PAINFUL and after ten minutes of yanking (not kidding) and vacuuming and RIPPING MY INCISION TO THE SIDE, I was screaming and crying. My partner and I have not fought at all during our relationship, nor has he given me cause to rage. Needless to say, I snapped but couldnt yell at him in fear of waking up my sister (our babysitter) and our 2-year old. The longer you hide your head in the sand the bigger the issue will get. All I can think of is - How in the world did you get pregnant? Some places test moms for COVID-19 at 36 to 38 weeks or before they undergo a C-section, while others don't test at all or do it when a case of the virus is suspected. When one starts living with a functioning alcoholic husband, they try to take control of situations, as mentioned above, and behave as a counselor. The worst you could do is take the place of a professional and try to look for solutions to cure it. My husband has never gotten a drivers license so I had to drive us the 25 minutes to the hospital while dealing with early contractions. He told me later he was definitely buzzed but me waking him up was the most sobering thing ever. I dont thnk so, Omgi cant stop laughing at the thong.Im in tears here My husband and I were so excited that we jumped right into action. So when my mom showed up to help out, hes so busy talking to her that Im having to hit him in the arm every time a contraction came so he would rub my back the only thing I asked him to do (hard back labor). They would know that their behavior will only add trouble than solve any problem. I had a go-bag ready with food, water and phone numbers. I was only at the hospital for two hours before she arrived. Most nights he drinks to the point of stumbling, and not . I went it alone and met up with him after surgery where he was holding the baby smiling, refreshed and relieved. I was induced w/our first, and it took a while for things to kick in. My husband was behind me holding me up while I squatted when a nurse looked at him funny and said You dont look so hot. So I went about my day normally and really thought something was going on around 3pm. My contractions are 1-2 min apart at this point. His father had to leave the room because he felt like he was going to throw up.saying It looks like hamburger meat. After 30 hours of labor, it was time to go to the hospital and my husband informs me that he needs to run across the street to get his hair cut and I have the number if I need him. 6/20 She Was Playing Bingo When She Went Into Labor. He said he felt so guilty and was terrified he was going to get pulled over. , around 2% of adults globally have a drinking problem thats over one billion people! He took my concerns seriously and that is the important part. You would really benefit from an Al-Anon meeting or two. Experiencing a craving for alcohol. I think you should talk with him about this (perhaps a counselor as well if talking to him alone won't work? Living with an alcoholic husband requires a lot of patience, courage, and the support of people around. We were on our way to the hospital by 6:30am. However, this might not be a good decision, ever. And in the US, up to thirty-eight million people have an alcohol addiction at some point in their lives.
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